Revising is as individual as writing. There's no wrong way to do it, and there are no hard and fast rules about how it goes.
Romantic tension is one of those things that's often better managed during revisions, because it's all about pacing.
Work with your innate writing process rather than against it, and you'll be much happier and more productive.
I'm so proud of my little site, and so grateful to all of you for helping to keep it going.
The person you injured is you, in the sense of costing yourself the time and effort of repairing the problems with your work, and the person you need to apologize to is you.
When you're short on space, a cliché or trope can be the most efficient way to do what needs doing and move on to the real story.
Drafting is engineering and construction. Revision is art and design.
Craft your HEA to fit your characters. Let them surprise you with the innovative solution they all come up with.
Characters take an approach of "How can we make this work for all of us?" rather than "It's too bad I have to choose one of you."
You are totally permitted to just do the fun parts of this and skip the parts you dislike. Hobbies are for enjoying.