Revision requires a shift in perspective, from writer to reader. What do you want your reader to experience while reading your work, and how do you want them to feel at the end?
The question is how to go about writing characters who aren't like you, not whether you are allowed to.
It's challenging to have the desire to create works that cause minimal harm, paired with the certain knowledge that our writing incorporates our ignorance and erroneous beliefs.
Every single approach to writing is perfectly okay, as long as it's in line with the kind of writer you want to be.
Today is the fifth Tuesday of the month, which means that my answer to this heartfelt letter is available exclusively to my Patreon patrons.
With regard to writing, it sounds like you have a process that isn't working for you. That's not something wrong with you or with your process; it's a mismatch, like someone putting on a shoe that's much too large for them.
Writing a series means playing a long game, investing considerable time and effort up front in hopes of considerable returns down the road.
Think about how you can invite yourself to write and make writing feel like the thing you most want to be doing right now.
We often have to confront the undeniable fact that writing takes time away from other things that we, or other people, think we should be doing.
Identify scenarios in which you're likely to need information, and then determine both what you'll look for and where you're inclined to look for it.